Author: neverheardfromhimagain

I thought I might start telling you a little bit about my situation with MM. This can’t be covered in one blog and many of you will think why did you let this go on for so long, and believe me I ask myself the same question.

It all started just over three years ago. I connected with a guy, online of course, where else do all these people come from? It was Easter time and this guy approached me and I initially thought what an idiot he’s got a photo that was more side on so I couldn’t see him properly but still he didn’t look too bad from what I could tell, he kind of looked like Glenn Ridge (for those of you who are in my age bracket would remember him as one of the hosts of Sale of the Century, for the younger readers well let’s just say us old fogies know! LOL).

Anyway, it was a Saturday night when he contacted me. I distinctly remembered as the next day was Easter Sunday and I was going over to my cousins place for lunch so I was telling her and showing her his picture. I didn’t end up receiving another message until the Tuesday morning where he promptly asked for my phone number, the next thing I know the phone is ringing and it’s him calling to ask what I was doing that day. As it turns out I had that week off work, I explained to him that I was getting some quotes done and I wasn’t free, he was very friendly and easy going and he said that I could reschedule. I told him that he would just have to accept the way I was looking as I had already had a shower but hadn’t done my hair and so on he wasn’t worried about all that, he was keen to meet me. I was due to meet him at 3pm at a local hotel as he had a 2pm appointment and would be free after that and didn’t have any further clients that day.

I arrived first, it’s a nice hotel with comfy chairs in the lounge area. He messages me to say he’s just arrived and he was on time. So as I sit there I see this gorgeous, tall, well dressed guy approach me and I think to myself, well this one looks a whole lot better in person. He sits down with his long legs outstretched and we immediately start chatting and for me it’s like I have known this guy all my life. For me at least there’s an instant chemistry and as all of us know that is extremely rare and for most of us we never get to experience that feeling. I think we talked for at least half an hour before he offers to buy me a drink as the time just flew by. I kid you not when he walked away I looked up to the Universe and said ‘thank you’ I truly felt that my search was potentially over once and for all and that I was at the beginning of my last dating nightmare.

Little did I know at that time it was only the beginning of a nightmare that I have only just moved on from.

Getting back to the original date. This date went from drinks, to dinner, it went on for 10 hours, so you can imagine there was connection, attraction, I just couldn’t wait to see him again and I genuinely believed he wasn’t faking it and was interested in me too.

I asked him how long he’d been divorced as his profile said that he was divorced and his profile name was ‘looking to the future’, he had his real name on the profile and he has three grown up kids this also is the truth and he works in IT also the truth. Clearly this guy is a novice when it comes to the lying part of advertising he’s divorced and creating profiles on dating sites.

He tells me it’s coming up five years and he tells me that if my name had been (the name of his ‘ex’ wife) then he wouldn’t of agreed to meet me as he explained in no uncertain words that she’s ‘a nutter’, she has some serious mental health issues. But I won’t go into that too much you get the idea.

The next time I saw him was the Sunday night, he came over to my place and we enjoyed a platter and wine and of course some intimacy, it for me was so easy to be in his company and I was so attracted to him. Win/win situation I think, I realise now it was far too early to be reading too much into it, but I had already been on the dating merry go round for some time and it had been a long time since I felt like this, but this time it felt different from the other times I thought I had met someone important. This guy was different……

A few weeks ago I was looking through my local community facebook group when I saw someone put up a post about getting fit by swimming. You see this guy had only installed a swimming pool during this past summer and was putting it out there to people in the area that they could use the pool.

I thought to myself, what a great idea, myself and other people in the community responded to the post.

A few weeks had gone by and I didn’t think too much more about it. I was home one Sunday afternoon when I receive a call from this guy on messenger asking if I wanted to come over as it was getting close to the end of summer.

I explained to this guy that I was doing some painting but would try and get there as it was a nice day.

I managed to finish off my painting in time to get there in the afternoon. Now I know on reflection it was not such a great idea to go to a strange male’s place when I didn’t know him but I didn’t feel that I would be unsafe).

He opens the door and I go in, this guy lives in a unit and had a three seater couch on one wall and a single chair opposite, naturally I sit on the single chair, he says ‘you can come and sit over next to me’. I tell him I am comfortable sitting where I am and that I don’t like sitting right next to someone as it hurts my neck. Anyway, he’s a nice enough guy and I didn’t go over there expecting it to be a date!!! (I don’t know how I was so naive), this is what he thought it was!! Finally, I direct the attention to go for a swim, but by this stage I must admit it was beginning to cool down and this stupid pool was not warm at all!! So I didn’t really have much interest in staying there for too long. As I am about to get out this guy puts his arms around my waist and kisses the back of my neck!!! OMG I get out of the pool but like I say I didn’t feel like he was going to do anymore, he’s just a lonely guy looking for love.

I did end up staying for dinner and it was not unpleasant but I knew that there was no way I would be interested in anything more than a possible friendship with this guy. We all know there has to be some kind of a spark for anything to even consider moving forward with.

The next day, I wake up and he’s sent a message with all this stuff on it ‘I think my mum has sent an angel from heaven’, ‘hello my beautiful swimming girl’, I guess the truth is if I thought this guy was someone I was interested in it might of been OK but it freaked me out big time. I was worried Mr Swimming Guy might turn into Mr Stalking Guy, but luckily this guy got the message pretty quickly and luckily for me ‘I haven’t heard from him again’…..

NEXT!!!! and there will be some more NEXT’S as I am on the merry go round of dating, but the good news is that like Mr Swimming Guy and all the other tossers out there, it’s fodder for my stories.

Happy dating.

J xx

OMG I thought I would give the good old dating apps another try. Please if someone with any sense can let me know why do I keep bothering thinking I will get a different result I would love to hear from you!!!

I think many of you (men and women) out there can relate to the latest round of dating disasters.

This is unfortunately what I found yet again.

First of all, so you understand what my situation is like now, my two kids are pretty much gone and I am definitely not one of those helicopter mums who carries on about them not being here and feeling like I have to reinvent myself, I already have a full life including my kids but have lots of other things that go on in my life. However, when you spend every single night either watching Netflix or going out alone (well not alone with gfs but not a partner) it gets a bit old, especially for us extrovert types, we like a bit of time alone but then we start to miss someone to talk to. Love my girlfriends but they can’t really do what I want……

During Easter where a lot of us have time off work and go away, I had no plans apart from having lunch on the Friday with my friend I decided that night I would try another dating app.

We move onto the first date I had on the Saturday night, we arranged to meet at a local hotel for a drink and if you can picture this place was on a corner and had windows all facing out towards the road. I naturally waited inside at a table, I am afterall a big girl who can walk into a pub alone. I see this bloke walking back and forth and I was silently laughing to myself thinking I bet this is my date, I wasn’t about to leave my seat to grab his attention. He finally texts me and I let him know I am inside, sure enough it’s this same guy I saw walking back and forth, back and forth, (what an idiot), why didn’t he just come inside too!! Anyway, initially I thought he was OK but certainly not an instant spark, I tell this guy that I have plans to learn Italian and live there for a few months in the future, he’s Italian background and he says ‘oh well when we get married we can go and stay with Uncle so and so’……..first tick off the list, I ask why his marriage broke up ‘oh well I missed going out with my mates’……second tick off the list, thirdly, he almost choked on his chardonnay when I told him I’d been to my first gay wedding, third and final tick…..a homophobe, misogamist, desperado. NEXT …..

The second date I met this guy for coffee and initially again I thought he was OK but again no initial spark. He certainly seemed a lot more intense, serious but open minded. He was a widower, so no ex wifes to worry about coming back onto the scene. However, this guy still communicated and ‘spoke’ with his dead wife.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am not someone who doesn’t believe in the spirit world so I was quite interested in all this conversation. However it wasn’t until afterwards that I thought you know what I don’t want him discussing me with the dead wife. He also tried to plant a big sloppy kiss on me when we left and I wasn’t feeling it. So as a result he became another NEXT…….

Number three, yes I met four of them so it’s almost done…..Again I thought this guy was a nice enough guy, he was very open and told me lots of stories about himself, including the fact that he’d only just recently broken up with a woman. I was concerned about this initially as I thought is he ready to just move onto another relationship, his last relationship had lasted about six months. Anyway, I did sit with him a couple of hours and thought yes he’s worth a second date. These days I just sit back and wait for them to do the work, I have learnt my lesson trying to see a man I really liked only to be let down time and time again and then to find out all along he’s married (that is a blog for another time)…..getting off track here……I will finish off number three after I tell you about number four.

Number four, I arranged to meet him on the Friday night, I met number three on the Wednesday. I wanted to meet number four as I felt that he could of been a better match for me. WAS I WRONG!!! this guy was a complete lunatic, he couldn’t sit still, kept looking over his shoulder, he would ask me a question and wouldn’t wait for answers, he made everything a joke, I thought to myself no wonder this guy is single he’s crazy. I tell you that was an hour of my life I will never get back…….

Now we come back to number three, he was very keen to catch up with me again, messaging me Thursday and Friday. On the Saturday morning I got my hair done and decided to message him to see if he wanted to meet for a coffee. He was keen to meet again, we sit down and he starts talking and telling stories again about him!! Finally he starts asking me more about my life. I do admit that even before I met this guy I was concerned he might have an issue with drinking. He tells me that he had lost his drivers licence not that long ago, he wouldn’t divulge exactly for how long but I read between the lines and realised it was for at least 12 months, this was my first tick of no. Secondly and this was the real clincher for me, I already thought he was too needy after wanting to find someone so quick after the most recent relationship. He started telling me about how one night his ex pulled the ‘race card’ on him, you see we were talking about racism and he made a comment to this woman about n_ _ _ _ _ _ s, his excuse is that he must of had a few too many wines. To make matters even worse her ex husband is African. I just couldn’t believe that someone in this day and age would think that someone wouldn’t have a problem with that. I told him point blank, ‘well just so you know I would of pulled you up on it too’. So this my friends was my last date for a while and just as the title of my blog ‘never heard from him again’.

On the Sunday morning, I thought I would have one last look on this app before deactivating and some guy came through who goes advertising himself that he’s looking for a relatioship. What a joke he started off asking OK questions, then eventually it’s ‘are you a good kisser, ‘do I wear lingerie’, ‘do I like to shower together’, ‘do I wear pj’s, because I don’t LOL’. OMG what an absolute TOSSER as a result of these questions only one solution can be reached DEACTIVATE.

So again I am off the whole thing and have now decided to have a go at learning golf, I had a lesson this morning and let me tell you GUY CITY, who knows maybe amongst the golf playing men there might be at least one decent single guy who wants to live a normal life. I am not just going to try and learn to meet a man it’s for me too, I think it is good exercise, a new challenge for me and social. The dating apps in all seriousness are soul destroying. I am so over everyone telling me that I try too hard and it will happen and to write down what I want, I have done all that stuff. I stay off the sites for months and then go back on as I don’t meet anyone in my day to day life, it’s really really hard. I would love to hear from all of your with your similar stories.

Until next time, happy dating, have fun. Thanks for reading tell your friends.

J xxxx

Well this seems to be the new trend these days in dating, the term ‘ghosting’ has become a normal part of the vocabulary when describing the magical disappearing act.

My question to all of you fellow daters is why does someone bother to waste their time as well as mine, chatting to me, texting me for over a week and then all of a sudden NOTHING!!!

The disrespect is rampant amongst the dating sites. It’s just too easy to move onto the next person without any thought of how someone might feel. I know I wrote about this is my previous blog but seriously I was actually feeling a little bit excited that maybe someone was interested in getting to know me but without any explanation disappeared (ghosted me!!). The sad thing is that in this past 3-4 weeks it has happened twice, both by men who are in their 50’s! It’s about time they all grew up and stopped thinking about themselves. Be an adult and tell me you’ve lost interest or met someone else.

However, if these ‘ghosters’ reappear again after dating someone else who it didn’t work with then guess what, I am NO SECOND PRIZE!!!

This brings me to last night’s date, I met this guy after work. He turned up with bike helmet in hand after arriving on his electric bike, this is OK I am not knocking it. He then tells me all about his sailing adventures he’s been on over the past 9-10 years, he shows me a picture of his view from his apartment (a very fancy suburb in the inner city). I think to myself this guy probably has some serious coin, although I am not impressed by that stuff but it would be nice to go sailing I must admit. He then announces he has to go as he has a meeting to attend, again this is OK with me. Now usually and I know this is probably not the right thing to expect but 90% of the time I get drinks paid for, on this occasion however, the bill was split. I guess these guys who go on multiple dates would become broke if they paid for everyone but seriously when this guy tells me about his fancy overseas holidays and living in a beautiful apartment the least I believe he can do is pay for wine.

There’s not really much more to tell about this story other than the fact that I haven’t heard from him again so far but to be perfectly honest I couldn’t give a ……………..and I have for now again deleted all my dating apps, this whole thing is exhausting and I am so sick of all these timewasters.

Happy dating and hopefully some of you out there start having better luck than me. J xxx

I am going out of order from my life stories, but I don’t think it matters too much as this is a story about dating.

Of course, I have again after not dating for a little while put my profile on a couple of sites. One of these sites has the woman making the first move after the guy has swiped and comes up as a match. I figure that this is a good concept that way I have some sort of control about the whole thing. I got very excited as I connected with a guy. I think he looks kinda hot and for over a week there was contact with him with phone calls, texts. Last weekend was a three day long weekend and I fully expected that I would most likely meet this guy over the long weekend. So far NO GO! (it’s Thursday now). He messaged me on Sunday and said he was would message me later, by the time Wednesday came I had heard nothing!!! I text him to say hi I hope everything is ok as I haven’t heard from you, this was sent at 11am (NO ANSWER). I then call him at 7pm, he then replies to this message with ‘hi sorry I missed your call, I am at my sisters and hopefully I will talk to you tomorrow night’……well guess what I haven’t bothered to respond to that BS answer. I tell you what the hell is wrong with him? I spoke to him four times, we discovered we like the same music and travelling, he seemed really keen and now cold as ice. Why are people bothering to go on dating sites when they aren’t serious? This is the million dollar question I would like answer to.

This now comes to my reason of calling this blog BLOCK, after being so pissed off about this other guy I put myself on another site that has a bit more action as far as messages go. I put it on last night and when I woke up this morning there were 22 messages from these kind of guys.

What a bunch of BLOCKHEADS, consequently as far as the 22 are concerned they are all BLOCKED!!! 90% are fake profiles, I can spot them a mile away, they are all from USA, wanting someone to marry, widowed such a cliche (don’t fall for that BS girls!).

Anyway after blocking all these blockheads, this afternoon I receive a message from a rather good looking guy who is an actual real guy. Anyway I know I should of been working but I was wasting time communicating with this guy, mind you he approached me so obviously liked the look of me. As the chatting is going along he then asks me do I have any other pictures, I tell this guy that I will have a look as I have only recently changed my hair colour. I then upload another picture of myself. He then responds with a statement about how he met a woman and when he met her she was size 24 and that on my profile I don’t say ‘what my body type is’, I do have it down as average, so obviously this douchebag can’t read as well as being shallow. I know I could do with losing a few kilos but I am certainly no size 24. I of course took great offence to this comment as my photos can clearly tell that I am not that size. Besides what the hell is the difference, if I am a good person why should it matter? I reply with ‘I am not size 24’ and guess what ‘haven’t heard from him again either!! But clearly he has been BLOCKED!!!

BLOCK my new favourite feature of the dating apps!!!

Happy dating out there with all the toads and timewasters.

As I am sure you can tell I am rather pissed off with these dumbarsed men!

The preference is definitely watching Netflix.

J xxx

Well after the debarcle of Greek God I thought I’d better give this dating caper another go, no ones’s knocking on my door!!!. So once again I went onto one of those free dating apps. I move onto Captain Snooze, you will find out why soon enough why this guy had that nickname.

I think he’s handsome with a full head of thick salt and pepper hair and a face that not only a mother could love but rather a face that you could be seen in public with. He was very keen to meet me and make an impression. We met in a trendy inner city restaurant where he took me to dinner all paid for and already he’s telling me all about Malta and how he’s going to show it to me one day…..my mind starts racing thinking all sorts of possibilities.

Sometimes I do dream about the whole ridiculous notion that someone will pick me up and take me away from all this….ha ha ha!!, as if. I sometimes think of going back in time where our expectation was to be 1950’s domestic goddesses, and enjoy the floating sensation of valium and escape reality that way. At least you weren’t expected to be mother, father, driver, counsellor, chef, gardener, hot lover, keep a full time job and be size 10. But I wouldn’t change it for the world imagine how terrible it would of been in loveless marriages with no way to escape. Unfortunately for alot of women this is still the case even in 2019.

After this date I receive the most romantic messages telling me my ‘eyes shined as bright as the stars’ OMG is this guy writing for Mills and Boon. As I have already said before I am a big sucker for the romance and of course loved receiving these messages, much better than getting a message asking me ‘do I shave or wax’? I keep meaning to reply to those messages with ‘do you wax your ballsac and crack? but I never do I just delete them, it would give me a good laugh, I think I will do that the next time I get one of those stupid messages.

Anyway I met Captain Snooze on a Thursday and he wanted to see me the next night and the Saturday but I already had plans. So it was arranged to get together on the Sunday. Again we met in the same inner city area and I remember it being a really hot day. He calls me as I was finding parking and asked me to wait by my car, so I did as he came around the corner to meet me he’s carrying a huge bunch of flowers and a present…..OMG again me being the big sucker for romance was in heaven. He even had the good sense to bring a bucket a water so I could put the flowers in the car without them drying out. The present was an Ecoya candle, (what woman doesn’t like candles?) the majority of us are suckers for them.

So Captain Snooze was starting to look like he could be a keeper. The weekend I met him was over a long weekend and there’s a big festival in the city. We went in there and listened the music, he was very affectionate and was putting his arms around my waist and nuzzling into me. I can’t say that I was complaining I was enjoying myself. I was starting to think maybe I might never have to go online ever again….unfortunately not….if it ended there then this would be the end of my blog! LOL.

It’s amazing how someone just can’t seem to get enough of you and ever so slowly it starts to dwindle…..well of course this is the case here…but for now I will finish this story next time as it’s another one like Greek God too long to go on with in one blog.

Happy dating enjoy your weekend.

Thanks for reading

J xxx

As I mentioned in the last blog about this guy there was some more to the story.

So here goes, promise it’s not too much longer….

To continue with the story, I met this guy close to a big sporting event where we get a day off for a horse race!! how good is that? It falls on the first Tuesday of November and lots of people take the Monday off and make a long weekend of it. I met my Greek god close to this weekend. He asked me if I had plans and I said no and he then replies ‘well you do now’….I was very impressed he invited me over for lunch. When I arrive he has made all this delicious greek food, spanakopita, moussaka, greek salad how can a girl resist a man who knows how to cook! I had a great time and stayed there for about seven hours, we had lots to talk about and there was definitely a physical attraction.

This guy was the one who after being married a long time not feeling particularly sexy or desirable made me feel that way by telling me I looked beautiful, smelt lovely stuff like that, it was very nice to hear this.

There was a catch however to my Greek god, there were rules to be applied to this…..firstly he didn’t want to talk to me everyday or have any sort of daily contact…..secondly I couldn’t see him on weekends as he always had his kid over who mind you was 14 years old (what 14 year old kid wants to hang around every weekend with their father?). I was able to see him on Sunday nights and of course because I was so smitten with him I went along with the rules. As time went on and I wasn’t seeing him much, maybe once every 10-14 days I was getting very frustrated with the lack of time spent with him and he was an hour away and I always went there.

Anyway, I was out with some girlfriends one night and I was telling them about him and showed his photo to them. My friend Angela said ‘I know that guy, he’s been chatting to me’….you can imagine how I felt, I was desperate to know exactly what sort of conversations he’d been having with her. I do have to remind you all that at this stage of dating I was extremely naieve and what I am about to say will have you all thinking (what the hell is wrong with this woman!) and guess what I say it to myself these days….what was I thinking???

He had in fact told me that he was still online and chatting to women about their experiences about dating as he had his own idea of writing a book about it, which in hindsight is exactly what I am doing now, but these are my own stories and silly me because I thought we was so gorgeous didn’t think too much about it until my friend said he was talking to her.

As it turns out, the conversation with her wasn’t anything to worry about just general chit chat not flirting. My sister in law however was furious about it all and she said let’s get him. I said what do you mean? She said let’s set up fake profile, we will put a young attractive woman with some sexy name like kittenxxx21 something like that. So that’s what she did and sure enough eventually this guy took the bait and started chatting to kittenxxx21, she then gave me her log in details and then I started talking to him. The conversation started off fairly normal but then after awhile it got around to asking about people he had met so naturally I asked so have you been dating anyone lately where his answer was of course no he was single but you could change all that…..

So he was caught chatting to someone else and saying he wasn’t seeing anyone.

So I then wrote him an email saying that I had in fact been chatting to a friend of mine and worked out she was chatting to you as she was online dating and she said that you said you were single. I said I didn’t understand what was going on as I thought we were getting along, we had so much in common, similar sense of humour, lots to talk about, attracted to each other so I was confused as to why he needed to talk to other women.

In typical male communication I of course ‘never heard from him’, these guys don’t actually know who they are dealing with when they meet me as I can be a bit like a dog like a bone and just want an answer. I then tried to call him to say we need to talk about it and of course he had an excuse why he couldn’t catch up.

After a while you just start to forget about these guys who can’t show any respect, that’s all any of us want in life, respect, for someone to be honest, if you aren’t interested tell me the truth I am a big girl and although it might hurt at the time at least I have been given respect and I can remember you with fondness and not think what an arsehole!!! As I have mentioned previously the same can be applied for us women, some women are not very respectful either the term ghosting is a popular term for people disappearing. It’s really not that hard to send someone a text after a date to say ‘it was lovely meeting you, good luck with your search’. But for someone who has been invited into your home and you in theirs then the least you should expect is a conversation and not be ghosted.

The interesting thing about this is that this all ended in the February-March of the year I turned 50 and my birthday is in June, so low and behold I receive an email from this guy for my birthday!!! go figure…..so although he hadn’t responded to my email he then sends me a birthday message.

He then also continued to every now and then call me at home, I did talk to him and have coffee with him a couple of times, but the email has never been mentioned. After a while I thought to myself what is the point of catching up with this guy every now and then? I am not even sure why I did. He also only ever calls on the landline so for all I know he could of left a few messages as I don’t know anymore how to retrieve messages from there!! LOL I only use my mobile phone these days. This guy is one of those conspiracy theorists who only uses a landline phone he’s worried about radiation, I guess he’s got a good point we should all be careful about the mobiles but seriously, this guy hasn’t even got a smartphone, his phone plan is still $10….what a loser!!!!

This is the end of this story. Hope you enjoyed and this guy I am sure is still sitting all alone in his little house being a bachelor and loving it, not sure why he bothers going online he’s definitely not serious about meeting someone. I think I already told you he’s still got the same profile that’s been there for five years. It starts off with the caption ‘I’m the one your mother warned you about’….I mean really what was I thinking even responding to that but I at the time found the profile rather amusing and thought he had a good sense of humour which is what I love in men, I am someone who loves to laugh.

Happy dating and good luck to you all, hope one day you find love in the sea of toads and liars.

J xxxxx

Anyone who knows me just laughs at me when I end up going on a date with someone from a mediterranean background as my ex is from a Greek background. I do find myself drawn to these kind of guys, not that it really matters what the background, but it’s just funny that a few of them I have dated have been Greek, Maltese, Italian; must be my flawed perception of them being romantic that sucks me in!!! But as we all know romance is dead in the water these days so it doesn’t matter where they come from, the majority still haven’t heard of a dictionary to look up the meaning of the word. (**Apologies in advance to all the gorgeous men out there that did in fact remember Valentines Day and are romantic, I do know they exist as friends of mine have them).

I am not going to tell all of the story as it’s too long for one blog, I dated this guy for about three months. Not that you can say it was three months, the actual time spent with this bloke was probably only a couple of weeks. This was the first of the timewasters!

After the disaster of my online scammer (probably from Nigeria or who knows where they are these days) I decided to give it all away for a few months. I wasn’t getting any attention on the site that the potential scammer was on anyway and I started to think maybe I had two heads or something. I didn’t think I looked too bad for a late 40’s female with all her teeth!! and a job.

The idea to try another dating site was put to me by my beautiful young tennis team mate one night when I was talking about how I hadn’t been on one date in almost 14 months of being seperated. She just couldn’t believe it so she suggested this site that is free and let me tell you it was like nothing else, I was getting messages left right and centre. Unfortunately most of them with heads that only their mother’s could love……I know you are thinking I am mean but seriously I have some taste! LOL

There was one who particularly caught my eye he was in my opinion handsome with dark eyes, olive skin and gorgeous!! We communicated for about six weeks before I finally met him (I now know that I would never waste my time for six weeks before meeting someone!!), clearly this guy was talking to god knows how many other women. You definitely know the signs of what’s going on after so many years in this caper.

So, it was arranged to meet on a Sunday afternoon at 3pm. I arrived and he was already sitting there, when I came towards him he stood up and held my chair out ready for me to sit down, I was very impressed with this. The waiter came and I of course ordered a wine (let’s face it, it was close enough to wine o’clock) and he ordered a coffee, when the order was made this guy felt comfortable enough to have a little dig about me ordering wine with the waiter, I enjoyed that immensely, my friends know that I am cheeky by nature so I felt at ease immediately.

This date was going very well, after about two hours he said he needed to go. As we left he opened the door for me and then walked on the street side (a very old fashioned and gentlemanly thing that men used to do) and held my hand, I tell you I was in heaven. I am an old romantic by nature and this I am told is what gets me into trouble as I am dreaming about what happens in a Hollywood movie (Hollywood has a lot to answer for!!) and let’s face it, it’s all a fantasy …..enough ranting for now at least! ……anyway moving on…..he then walks me to my car and gives me a big kiss….. I felt smitten by this guy but little did I know then that he is just another one who I ‘NEVER HEARD FROM HIM AGAIN’!!! LOL Although there is more to the story, he was not quite a complete never heard from him again so I probably shouldn’t say that but I will continue with this later.

Until then, enjoy the weekend.

Thanks for reading, tell your friends.

I am on instagram too!! same title.

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Well let’s start at the beginning.

When you have been in a long-term marriage and feel like a frumpy old housewife who hasn’t had attention for years it’s very easy to lose your confidence and think that you are no longer attractive or desirable to the opposite sex so when someone comes along that makes you feel like that again, it’s hard not to get excited about the possibilities.  Especially when you thought that side of your life was over which I did and to be honest I didn’t even care and most women I talk to say the same thing, I take my hat off to all the people that can make it last with one partner not an easy feat in this day of ‘I want it now’ selfish society.

And yes, I know this is probably not taking one for the team of sisters are doing it for themselves and that I shouldn’t be worrying about being desirable or sexy when it comes to men but it is actually for myself that I enjoy feeling this way and damn it all I like being told that I am beautiful and sexy although these days that’s been a long time since I heard that. 

My ex-husband during this time didn’t even live in the country he had left with his bags packed and me with our two children who at the time were 13 and 16. They are now 22 and 19 and they have had their share of similar stories of ‘never heard from him again’, god help the young ones, if women our age are having a hard time it’s even harder for the younger generation.  At least we had some experience of the old fashioned way of meeting out in bars, face to face, this generation doesn’t know anything different than social media and online dating and their own set of dick pics.  So much for flowers and chocolates and romance, the male species needs to be given a dictionary as soon as they can learn to read with the word romance highlighted and put in a place where they can see it everyday.

So, are you ready? This is a tale that I am sure you have heard before. This is just the first of many stories.

When I started this whole experience of online dating, I was so naïve.  I started off on a site you need to pay for where you acquire stamps, I paid for 24 stamps and six years later I still have most of them. I figured that because it was a site where you needed to pay, there may be a better chance of meeting someone sincere.

How this one works is you search profiles and send a free ‘kiss’ message that are generic messages for example ‘I like the look of your profile it made me smile’ that sort of thing, the guy then receives it and he may reply with another free message or if he’s really keen he uses one of his stamps to message you directly through the sight, this stamp lasts for a month.   Or if he’s like most of them when you send a message he completely ignore you.

This particular site was not good for my confidence at all as I sent out lots of free kisses and never got a reply from the majority, I started thinking maybe I’ve got two heads or something but then I realised that they are the ones with the problem, if they don’t want to respond then it’s their loss!!

You would also think that perhaps these sites may be better screened for potential scammers which I was falling for big time when a very good looking man said yes to my kiss, yippee finally some positive response.

He of course gave the typical story that us vulnerable women fall for when first on the dating sites, he was working overseas, was coming to Australia in three months, his wife died and he had a 9 year old daughter and of course sent me the most romantic emails (all on my private email at this stage) and was gorgeous.  My sleuth of a cousin thought he sounded just a bit too good to be true but I on the other hand being new to all of this being vulnerable thought otherwise so I continued emailing him.  We searched him on facebook and it looked like a legitimate page but she wasn’t convinced and said those photos have been downloaded from google images it’s a fake person, it looked so real to me.  I was at least smart enough to create an email address only for this kind of corresponding and used a fake name but I suppose these scammers could be smart enough to find me if they really wanted to.  Anyway, because we were corresponding electronically and on messenger, I was the one who caught him out.  This is how it happened, as mentioned he said he had a nine year old but then an email came out where he talked about how both of his girls were doing well that made me suspicious.  It was then arranged to instant message each other so as this was happening one night, I was asking various questions about his weekend when he said he was out with his daughter who I might add was a different name from the one he told me previously, I then also quizzed him about his other daughter when he said I only have the one daughter.  I then ask him the question as to why did he say in his email that ‘both’ were doing well, I said who are you and I am going to video call, so of course I am sure you can imagine by now that he was another one who I never heard from again.  I will admit that although I was loving the emails I would never in a million years of given anyone money. This goes out as lesson to all women who unfortunately are still being conned from unscrupulous scammers to never trust anyone you don’t meet face to face.

The story continues…..happy dating.

Janine xx

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I want to share with you all that I have been writing down these stories for at least the past three years even though this whole search has been going on for close to seven years! This is what I wrote initially with the idea of perhaps writing a book but I think for me who is definitely no writer doing this blog is a good way to get the story out.  This was the original beginning of what I wrote so I guess I might as well put it out there.  

Well where does one begin when suddenly finding yourself single again after many years of marriage in your 40’s.

I know the ‘internet’ surely there must be some decent normal guys out there!

I am here to tell you that most of them are still like juvenile horny teenagers’ men in their 50’s about time they grew up don’t you think?

This story comes from my experiences in the dating world they are all true and hopefully you will get as much of a belly laugh as I have because I tell you if I didn’t laugh, I would cry.

The pursuit of true love is a long road to travel and maybe will need to be travelled until I am in the nursing home.  Unfortunately for me I actually like men and dislike them at the same time hence the continual search and why I probably will never give up.

With the discovery of cameras on phones well they have all become expert in photography especially of their most prized possessions and as for the videos well what a scream.  My own private porno collection.  I have enough of them to create a book as well as videos.

When I get yet another one of those pics, I think oh well here we go again seen one of those before they all start to look the same after a while and I think how about sending me a photo of the head on top of your shoulders?

**Don’t worry boys your secrets are safe; I am not about to embarrass anyone in that way.

The idea for writing this has come from my cousin who has probably not really wanted to be a sounding board we have had many a good laugh recounting the many times that I think I have met someone decent only then to never hear from him again without of course any explanation.

When I was speaking to her on Valentine’s Day about how the man in my life was more interested in putting a water feature in than spending the day with me or dinner the other stories came out again about how I was speaking to another one earlier in the year who seemed interested and said I quote ‘don’t be surprised to receive random calls’ only never to hear from him again either I laughed and laughed and she said you have to get started on that book write it all down and the catch cry of never heard from him again became the idea for the title. 

This title says it all and to be fair, the title could also be ‘Never heard from ‘her’ again as it happens to men too.  I think the problem for all of us is the internet is like a lolly shop too many to choose from so unless someone walks in that door who blows your mind you just go oh that one lost its flavour, I’m bored with the taste.