As I mentioned in the last blog about this guy there was some more to the story.
So here goes, promise it’s not too much longer….
To continue with the story, I met this guy close to a big sporting event where we get a day off for a horse race!! how good is that? It falls on the first Tuesday of November and lots of people take the Monday off and make a long weekend of it. I met my Greek god close to this weekend. He asked me if I had plans and I said no and he then replies ‘well you do now’….I was very impressed he invited me over for lunch. When I arrive he has made all this delicious greek food, spanakopita, moussaka, greek salad how can a girl resist a man who knows how to cook! I had a great time and stayed there for about seven hours, we had lots to talk about and there was definitely a physical attraction.
This guy was the one who after being married a long time not feeling particularly sexy or desirable made me feel that way by telling me I looked beautiful, smelt lovely stuff like that, it was very nice to hear this.
There was a catch however to my Greek god, there were rules to be applied to this…..firstly he didn’t want to talk to me everyday or have any sort of daily contact…..secondly I couldn’t see him on weekends as he always had his kid over who mind you was 14 years old (what 14 year old kid wants to hang around every weekend with their father?). I was able to see him on Sunday nights and of course because I was so smitten with him I went along with the rules. As time went on and I wasn’t seeing him much, maybe once every 10-14 days I was getting very frustrated with the lack of time spent with him and he was an hour away and I always went there.
Anyway, I was out with some girlfriends one night and I was telling them about him and showed his photo to them. My friend Angela said ‘I know that guy, he’s been chatting to me’….you can imagine how I felt, I was desperate to know exactly what sort of conversations he’d been having with her. I do have to remind you all that at this stage of dating I was extremely naieve and what I am about to say will have you all thinking (what the hell is wrong with this woman!) and guess what I say it to myself these days….what was I thinking???
He had in fact told me that he was still online and chatting to women about their experiences about dating as he had his own idea of writing a book about it, which in hindsight is exactly what I am doing now, but these are my own stories and silly me because I thought we was so gorgeous didn’t think too much about it until my friend said he was talking to her.
As it turns out, the conversation with her wasn’t anything to worry about just general chit chat not flirting. My sister in law however was furious about it all and she said let’s get him. I said what do you mean? She said let’s set up fake profile, we will put a young attractive woman with some sexy name like kittenxxx21 something like that. So that’s what she did and sure enough eventually this guy took the bait and started chatting to kittenxxx21, she then gave me her log in details and then I started talking to him. The conversation started off fairly normal but then after awhile it got around to asking about people he had met so naturally I asked so have you been dating anyone lately where his answer was of course no he was single but you could change all that…..
So he was caught chatting to someone else and saying he wasn’t seeing anyone.
So I then wrote him an email saying that I had in fact been chatting to a friend of mine and worked out she was chatting to you as she was online dating and she said that you said you were single. I said I didn’t understand what was going on as I thought we were getting along, we had so much in common, similar sense of humour, lots to talk about, attracted to each other so I was confused as to why he needed to talk to other women.
In typical male communication I of course ‘never heard from him’, these guys don’t actually know who they are dealing with when they meet me as I can be a bit like a dog like a bone and just want an answer. I then tried to call him to say we need to talk about it and of course he had an excuse why he couldn’t catch up.
After a while you just start to forget about these guys who can’t show any respect, that’s all any of us want in life, respect, for someone to be honest, if you aren’t interested tell me the truth I am a big girl and although it might hurt at the time at least I have been given respect and I can remember you with fondness and not think what an arsehole!!! As I have mentioned previously the same can be applied for us women, some women are not very respectful either the term ghosting is a popular term for people disappearing. It’s really not that hard to send someone a text after a date to say ‘it was lovely meeting you, good luck with your search’. But for someone who has been invited into your home and you in theirs then the least you should expect is a conversation and not be ghosted.
The interesting thing about this is that this all ended in the February-March of the year I turned 50 and my birthday is in June, so low and behold I receive an email from this guy for my birthday!!! go figure…..so although he hadn’t responded to my email he then sends me a birthday message.
He then also continued to every now and then call me at home, I did talk to him and have coffee with him a couple of times, but the email has never been mentioned. After a while I thought to myself what is the point of catching up with this guy every now and then? I am not even sure why I did. He also only ever calls on the landline so for all I know he could of left a few messages as I don’t know anymore how to retrieve messages from there!! LOL I only use my mobile phone these days. This guy is one of those conspiracy theorists who only uses a landline phone he’s worried about radiation, I guess he’s got a good point we should all be careful about the mobiles but seriously, this guy hasn’t even got a smartphone, his phone plan is still $10….what a loser!!!!
This is the end of this story. Hope you enjoyed and this guy I am sure is still sitting all alone in his little house being a bachelor and loving it, not sure why he bothers going online he’s definitely not serious about meeting someone. I think I already told you he’s still got the same profile that’s been there for five years. It starts off with the caption ‘I’m the one your mother warned you about’….I mean really what was I thinking even responding to that but I at the time found the profile rather amusing and thought he had a good sense of humour which is what I love in men, I am someone who loves to laugh.
Happy dating and good luck to you all, hope one day you find love in the sea of toads and liars.
J xxxxx
Never Heard From Him Again 