Well let’s start at the beginning.
When you have been in a long-term marriage and feel like a frumpy old housewife who hasn’t had attention for years it’s very easy to lose your confidence and think that you are no longer attractive or desirable to the opposite sex so when someone comes along that makes you feel like that again, it’s hard not to get excited about the possibilities. Especially when you thought that side of your life was over which I did and to be honest I didn’t even care and most women I talk to say the same thing, I take my hat off to all the people that can make it last with one partner not an easy feat in this day of ‘I want it now’ selfish society.
And yes, I know this is probably not taking one for the team of sisters are doing it for themselves and that I shouldn’t be worrying about being desirable or sexy when it comes to men but it is actually for myself that I enjoy feeling this way and damn it all I like being told that I am beautiful and sexy although these days that’s been a long time since I heard that.
My ex-husband during this time didn’t even live in the country he had left with his bags packed and me with our two children who at the time were 13 and 16. They are now 22 and 19 and they have had their share of similar stories of ‘never heard from him again’, god help the young ones, if women our age are having a hard time it’s even harder for the younger generation. At least we had some experience of the old fashioned way of meeting out in bars, face to face, this generation doesn’t know anything different than social media and online dating and their own set of dick pics. So much for flowers and chocolates and romance, the male species needs to be given a dictionary as soon as they can learn to read with the word romance highlighted and put in a place where they can see it everyday.
So, are you ready? This is a tale that I am sure you have heard before. This is just the first of many stories.
When I started this whole experience of online dating, I was so naïve. I started off on a site you need to pay for where you acquire stamps, I paid for 24 stamps and six years later I still have most of them. I figured that because it was a site where you needed to pay, there may be a better chance of meeting someone sincere.
How this one works is you search profiles and send a free ‘kiss’ message that are generic messages for example ‘I like the look of your profile it made me smile’ that sort of thing, the guy then receives it and he may reply with another free message or if he’s really keen he uses one of his stamps to message you directly through the sight, this stamp lasts for a month. Or if he’s like most of them when you send a message he completely ignore you.
This particular site was not good for my confidence at all as I sent out lots of free kisses and never got a reply from the majority, I started thinking maybe I’ve got two heads or something but then I realised that they are the ones with the problem, if they don’t want to respond then it’s their loss!!
You would also think that perhaps these sites may be better screened for potential scammers which I was falling for big time when a very good looking man said yes to my kiss, yippee finally some positive response.
He of course gave the typical story that us vulnerable women fall for when first on the dating sites, he was working overseas, was coming to Australia in three months, his wife died and he had a 9 year old daughter and of course sent me the most romantic emails (all on my private email at this stage) and was gorgeous. My sleuth of a cousin thought he sounded just a bit too good to be true but I on the other hand being new to all of this being vulnerable thought otherwise so I continued emailing him. We searched him on facebook and it looked like a legitimate page but she wasn’t convinced and said those photos have been downloaded from google images it’s a fake person, it looked so real to me. I was at least smart enough to create an email address only for this kind of corresponding and used a fake name but I suppose these scammers could be smart enough to find me if they really wanted to. Anyway, because we were corresponding electronically and on messenger, I was the one who caught him out. This is how it happened, as mentioned he said he had a nine year old but then an email came out where he talked about how both of his girls were doing well that made me suspicious. It was then arranged to instant message each other so as this was happening one night, I was asking various questions about his weekend when he said he was out with his daughter who I might add was a different name from the one he told me previously, I then also quizzed him about his other daughter when he said I only have the one daughter. I then ask him the question as to why did he say in his email that ‘both’ were doing well, I said who are you and I am going to video call, so of course I am sure you can imagine by now that he was another one who I never heard from again. I will admit that although I was loving the emails I would never in a million years of given anyone money. This goes out as lesson to all women who unfortunately are still being conned from unscrupulous scammers to never trust anyone you don’t meet face to face.
The story continues…..happy dating.
Janine xx
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Never Heard From Him Again 